For some people, Monday is about resilience

Remember when the most important thing in your life was going to prom or getting into college? Then it was getting into medical school, and then it was passing boards. Each has been a point on your timeline that you have planned for and worked towards. Monday may be the next point on your timeline, getting into residency. It may also be the alternative, not matching. Many people going through match may be Type A personalities who are outgoing, hard-working, and overachieving. The problem with this is that many of those people have been very successful, may not have much experience dealing with unplanned events such as not matching. This is why I recommend having someone with you on Monday for emotional support in case you do not match.

Many people who I have worked with, who did not match have told me that they feel like a failure and let me guarantee you that they were not. Keeping perspective on the situation is important. At this point in life:

You have more education than 99% of the population of the world. Don’t let your emotions distort your thinking. You have achieved a huge amount in your life so far and have many more accomplishments to come, you just don’t know what they are yet. Most of your life, you have been able to plan and predict the outcomes, so not matching has caused you to have new feelings, like anxiety, fear and despair. This is very uncomfortable for you. Not matching is not the end of your medical career. You are still a physician. You will still have a career. You may just have a different path then you had anticipated. You may have to go through SOAP to match. You may have to do an intern year or a research year. Ultimately, you will still be moving forward in your life. You may end up doing research and finding a cure for heart disease. You just don’t know right now. Do not let your fears carry you away. You can do this. Make a plan. Take a deep breathe and move forward.

In the words of A.A. Milne, “You are stronger than you seem, Braver than you believe, and smarter than you think you are.”